I recently have been getting more and more frustrated with dog owners. More specifically, dog owners who also have children. I am involved with a couple of online groups of moms, and there were several discussions lately about their dogs not being tolerant enough of their children. So, I am coming on here to vent. I promise this has nothing to do with anyone who I know reads my blog.
WAKE UP PARENTS!!! It is your job and responsibility as a dog owner to keep your dog safe. It is also your job and responsibility as a parent to keep your child safe and to teach them how to appropriately interact with dogs, which will in turn keep them safe. It is not your dogs job to be "tolerant" and let your child climb, pinch, jump, ride, hug, or pull on your dog!! Should your dog have manners around your child? YES!! Should your dog have self control when and if it gets overwhelmed by a child's attention? YES!! Both of those are a must, but you as a parent are responsible for making sure those things happen.
Many parents are told to get rid of their dogs when they are expecting a new baby because "the dog will be jealous of the new baby and could eventually bit that child." There are situations where the best option is to re-home a dog because it's behavior toward children is a liability. BUT, if you know that your dog's behavior is a risk, you have 9 months to work on improving that to the point where the dog can stay in the home! If your dog is a well behaved, well adjusted, friendly dog to begin with, it should be fine with a new baby entering the family.
Parents, if your dog bites your child, it is almost always something that YOU could and should have prevented!! Yes, there are exceptions to that rule, but you are the one who should be controlling the interactions between dog and child and when that happens correctly, a bite should never happen. When I hear/read about parents who say they can't believe their dog bit their child and that "there was no warning" and that "he is usually really tolerant" I feel for two individuals in those situations....the child and the dog....and yes, I usually blame the parent. That child should have been taught how to interact with the dog. And that dog shouldn't have had to be pushed to the point that it felt the need to BITE someone to get it's message ("I am uncomfortable, leave me alone!" across. I feel bad that the parent/owner didn't take the time to educate themselves on how to foster a safe relationship between a dog and a child.
Parents need to teach their children to LEAVE THE DOG ALONE! Parents also need to educate themselves on dog body language. You need to know your dog, and know that they have their own limits.
You also need to protect your child! Do not trust anyone when they say their dog is fine with children, or if they say their dog "LOOOOVES children". Observe that dog for yourself, and make the judgement of whether or not your child can interact with that dog. If you doubt at all, the comfort level of the dog, keep your child away.
I read THIS blog yesterday and it is SO true! This is specifically about children hugging dogs, but it is true of many interactions between dogs and children. That game of "tag" that your child plays with the dog? It probably is the same kind of situation as the hug talked about in the link. Anyone reading who has a dog and children, PLEASE read the linked blog! I don't care if you finish MY post, read that one!
This is something I have seen in our family. Hobbs is VERY wary of children, including Kaylee. I blame myself for his feelings towards children. When he was a small impressionable puppy, I allowed a pushy, loud, physically aggressive toddler to terrorize him. Because he was a guide dog puppy and I was a "stupid" owner I expected him to just take it. I am convinced that is the reason he is so wary of children. When he was dropped from the guide dog program it was partly because his distrust of children was to the point that the person who evaluated him said she was worried that, given the right situation he could bite a child. That is absolutely 100% still true. Granted, he would have to be pushed REALLY hard to resort to biting, but it could happen. Honestly, I think ANY dog has the potential to bite someone, especially a child. When we brought Kaylee home from the hospital, Hobbs was terrified for a couple weeks! He didn't want to be on the same side of the house as her, let alone in the same room. It took him a while, but he has gotten used to her and even likes her a little bit.
Now, Patriot, I trust him more around Kaylee than I do Hobbs. That is simply because he is more resilient than Hobbs. He is more tolerant. Does that mean I let Kaylee do anything she wants with him and expect him to take it? NO!! Thinking about it now, I think I let her get away with bugging him more than I should. It is usually true that when a dog gets older they get LESS tolerant of things. Their bodies usually hurt, they lose sight and hearing, and just generally are grumpy. That is definitively Patriot lol. He is a grumpy old man!
It is interesting that I trust Patriot around her more than I trust Hobbs. Patriot is much more likely to growl at her than Hobbs is. In fact, if Hobbs were to ever actually growl at her, I would probably snatch her out of the reach of his mouth, because a bite would possibly be coming next. He doesn't growl at much, he is one to try to escape the situation rather than confront whatever is making him uncomfortable. When she was first crawling, he dumped her on the floor many times because she would start to crawl on him and he would bolt. I never reprimanded him for that behavior. I would much rather him leave the situation than feel trapped and resort to worse methods of getting her away from him (bite).
On the other hand, I will admit that Patriot has growled at her. He growls and grumbles about everything from a stepped on foot/tail to the cat walking too close to him. When he growls, I first assess what KAYLEE is doing. If she is over the line, I will correct HER behavior first. If it is something silly, like her accidentally sitting on his leg hairs I tell him "that's enough" because really that doesn't warrant him grumping. 9 out of 10 times a growl from him is because Kaylee is doing something that she shouldn't (sitting on him, laying across his legs, using him as a slide, purposely standing on his tail, etc). Even when it is something little, I explain to Kaylee that she needs to be careful about what she is doing around Patriot.
Just so the Grandparents reading this aren't getting nervous, Kaylee is never in danger around the dogs. I am very diligent in keeping her interactions with them appropriate and safe. So please don't worry!